When we started dating in 1986, there were a few things about my man that stuck out more than just his ability to “tear up” his electric guitar, his charm, or his good looks.
These things were things that my former beaus had never exhibited. Things that a woman needs in a husband.
They are what made me make him my husband in 1988. And thankfully, he still exhibits these qualities today. What are they?
- He loved and still loves the Lord more than himself and more than me
- He was and is a gentleman
- He was and is spiritually knowledgeable
- He was and is fun to be with
- He didn’t and doesn’t have disgusting habits
- He had and still has a great work ethic
- He was and is committed to me and loyal to me
- He gave and still gives me his heart daily
There are many more things that I could list that will probably pop into my head as soon as I press PUBLISH.
I didn’t list things like “being a good dad” because he wasn’t one until two years after we were married.
I also didn’t mention “spends lots of money on me” because he was a poor college student when we first got together. I’ve never measured his love for me based on how much money he spends because we’ve chosen a lifestyle that doesn’t often afford luxuries. But I can say that if I needed something, my husband would gladly spend our last dollar to get it for me. He’d willingly give up something he wanted so I could have something I needed.
I guess each of us could always find something in a spouse that we would like to change but the things I’ve listed above are qualities that make a man a keeper and that outweigh anything negative.
As part of the 40-Day Respect Dare by Nina Roesner I’m doing, I challenge you to find some positive things in your spouse that haven’t changed over the years that cancel out some of the negatives that life has heaped upon your marriage. Choose to dig deep and see your husband for the young, handsome, fit “rock star” that’s still inside of him. (Inspired by Dare #8)
Philippians 1:9-11 – And this is my prayer: that your love may abound more and more in knowledge and depth of insight, so that you may be able to discern what is best and may be pure and blameless for the day of Christ, filled with the fruit of righteousness that comes through Jesus Christ—to the glory and praise of God.